When I was introduced to the Hakomi method, I felt that I had found my “home” as a therapist. The principles, values, and approach of Hakomi counseling are so aligned with what I hold important that I feel fully grounded in authenticity and strength when sitting with my clients.
As soon as I began bringing elements of Hakomi into some of my sessions, I started getting strong, enthusiastic, responses from clients. I started hearing comments like:
- “Can we do more of this?”
- “I’m seeing real progress happening”
- “For the first time in over 20 years I believe that therapy will help.”
(Tears of joy still show up remembering that last comment.)
Clients that I was doing Hakomi with also started asking me to work with their partners, to try to help them make changes in their lives, and strengthening their relationship.
I did notice some resistance from some clients. A few clients were so indoctrinated in the “medical model” of therapy that they did not know how to respond when I was not telling them how to “fix” what was wrong (this is not something I do, with or without Hakomi).
When I started using elements of Hakomi with clients, some of them started coming to their next session and spontaneously telling me what they had processed from the last session, and the impact that it had made during their week. From a therapist’s perspective, this is a pretty exciting way to begin a session!
A big shift that Hakomi has prompted is a change of focus when I work with clients. I don’t focus on story. Don’t worry, I still pay attention to it! But I focus on how the story is affecting you in the present moment. That frees us up from being “in our heads” and truly experiencing how our history is being carried in our system (body, mind, emotions, behavior, etc.)
Finally, because of the practice of loving presence, the foundation of Hakomi, I find nourishment in every session… resulting in actually looking forward to going to work!